|Excellence through Fear|
|By Carl ToersBijns, former deputy warden, ASPC Eyman, Florence AZ|
Growing up I remember performing daredevil feats without a moment of hesitation to act because of fear. It was almost like a spontaneous act of heroism only in the moment of time where nothing around me caused me fear. Just the same, I also watched my friends risking their own safety without regard to loss of limb eye or life. The fact is, the more you dare to do new things the bolder you get. Taking such risks are not necessarily in the best interest of yourself of others but when you are young, you ignore the fear and do the dare.
In our lives there are good, bad and ugly fears. The good fears bring you triumph in overpowering an obstacle or barrier in life. The bad fear can bring you disappointment for not trying the feat well enough and settle for mediocre goals. The ugly fear is the fear that hurts the most as it may cost you a limb or eye or even death because you took a risk that was against all odds too dangerous to take.
Learning life is not without learning which fears are good or bad. We can literally decide good choices or poor choices based on fear alone. Tapping into the good fear can bring you greatness and success while the bad fear can only bring you boundaries and limited success as you decide to pay it safe. A bad fear can also be called the fear of regret. There was no motivation for you to surpass your personal efforts and resulted in either a failure of performance or a dismal delivery of some kind of mission. The choice is really up to you how you deal with fear.
Bad fears are identified by periods of procrastination or indecision. Waiting too long or looking for the right timing can limit your efforts or success. Wanting to take a break may cost you an opportunity knocking on the door. Good fears carry with it a level of high energy and commitment. Recognizing the good fear allows you to put your ducks in a row to make it a better arrangement thereby reducing the risks. This type of fear is also driven by motivation and is difficult to stop once it gets going.
Facing bad fears or ugly fears is usually created by confusion and the lack of planning in the sense of when it is a good time or whether the conditions are unsuitable for any attempt to take a chance. Choices give you options. Reviewing options can decide the difference between good and bad fears.
Needless to say, taking no time to plan and not being motivated enough to do it right could lead to experiencing an ugly fear and we all know that these kinds of fear rarely gives you a second chance. One of the most influential things you experience during an ugly fear is the fact that you begin to worry too much before you even get started. Jumping into the risk with one foot left behind can create a bad situation and often results in failure.
The last thing about fear is to always be prepared to change your strategy to put the odds in your favor. Motivation, commitment and good planning can go a long way in dealing with your own goals in life but when it is all said and done, successful deeds are often a result of taking the challenge the risky route rather than the safer route thus when you decide to take a risk, don’t look back, set your focus and let the future work itself out for you.
Corrections.com author, Carl ToersBijns, (retired), has worked in corrections for over 25 yrs He held positions of a Correctional Officer I, II, III [Captain] Chief of Security Mental Health Treatment Center – Program Director – Associate Warden - Deputy Warden of Administration & Operations. Carl’s prison philosophy is all about the safety of the public, staff and inmates, "I believe my strongest quality is that I create strategies that are practical, functional and cost effective."
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