Civilian Dating A CO
|FordSVT 60 posts||
It’s a high stress place to work. This job changes anyone who’s in it. If he can keep the Jail at work and home at home it should be fine. If not you’re relationship will suffer. My marriage almost ended in Nov 2013. I had changed, I was cynical and judgemental too. Also had some issues with Porn. Went to marriage counselling and individual help too. I’m a way better person to day who loves the job once again.
|BROWNS2K 27 posts||
If you have to come to this site for relationship advice, your doomed to begin with. I suggest becoming a nun and taking a vow of celibacy. That way you wont have to go to strangers on the internet and look for advice!
|shakeyjake 112 posts||
Same advice that has been given below
|BigSteve 1 post||
what advice would you give a guy dating a female corrections officer?
|shakeyjake 112 posts||
But don’t be to overly sensitive and don’t take any crap from him either. He’s also a man, who has a girlfriend and must realize that he never takes his job home. I’ve been married for over 33 years and all those years I have worn a badge. In the beginning I let slip about taking my job home and realized that my wife didn’t need to know all the crap I’ve dealt with and the horrors that I’ve seen. To make a relationship work in this field, both parties have to understand were to draw the line and listen to one another when the other has a concern that needs addressed. Like all relationships, communication is the key.
|bostonmk 1 post||
I would say that you should continue like you have been. You are already on the right track of being sensitive to his job. Just understand that his job is a little different than the normal 9-5 where he probably deals with things in the institution that a normal 9-5 job doesn’t have to deal with. Just by you understanding that would be showing him support. Prisons are high stress environments so after work if he wants to vent, listen, if not, don’t push the issue. Like the person who previously posted, be patient because the job has odd hours and overtime. That can be an adjustment and yes, don’t feel left out if he starts talking about his job more in depth with other co-workers. Hang in there, you are on the right track and I wish your relationship the best!
|Mick 307 posts||
Don’t do anything different than you would with anyone else. Just because we wear a uniform doesn’t make us some type of strange being LOL.. Just be patient about the shift work, that he may have to work on weekends and on nights may be a pain at times but just roll with it. The Job can be stressful but most of us dont bring that side home with us. Work is Work and Home is Home and never the twain shall meet. And if you are both out with some of his colleagues from work don’t feel left out if you don’t understand what he and they are talking about,Corrections is its own world with its own ways.
|rusalka 1 post||
Hello, I’m new to this forum and the culture of corrections as a whole.
I have a friend who is a CO and we are romantically involved. While it is early in the relationship, I would like to get advice on what to expect with dating a corrections officer. What can I do to be supportive of him considering his profession? I know that his work schedule is very unpredictable (partially because he is new, partially because of the officer storage) and I also know that prison is in an extremely high stress environment.
Any advice, any tips or thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
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