|Getting a Grip|
|By Caterina Spinaris|
There is no shortage of challenging situations in life. The issue is not IF but WHEN they will happen. Sometimes we find ourselves dealing with several such situations in one day. It is easy to end up feeling irritable and frustrated.
That is why we need tools to weather storms. The way we react to challenges can increase or decrease the degree to which we feel stressed. That is, we have a choice as to how much we upset ourselves, as opposed to viewing frustrations in ways that do not steal from us hope or peace of mind (at least not for very long)..
In a nutshell, what we tell ourselves about aggravating situations and how we choose to respond to them deter-mines if we’ll get horribly uptight, or if we’ll be perturbed but able to move on and perhaps even grow from the challenge..
Learning to “talk ourselves down,” to deescalate ourselves, is a coping technique that can be a life saver. When we calm ourselves down we are more in charge of our circumstances, as our behavior becomes more rationally intentional and less impulsively reactive..
Here are some things we can do or tell ourselves to lower our emotional temperature in order to detach from irri-tating situations and engage in constructive problem-solving..
I’d love to hear about some of your coping techniques. If you’d like to share, send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Corrections.com author, Caterina Spinaris Tudor, is the Executive Director of Desert Waters Correctional Outreach (DWCO, www.desertwaters.com) and a Licensed Professional Counselor in the State of Colorado. She works with correctional employees and their families, addressing the unique demands of the correctional workplace and its toll on staff and families. The mission of DWCO is to increase the occupational, personal, and family well-being of staff of all disciplines within the corrections profession.
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